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Old 10-21-2012, 05:44 PM
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Originally Posted by Hades36 View Post
I appreciate what you are saying and appreciate your response. For me, the decision is a sacrifice but its an honorable one that I am happy to make because I know PLove's heart and what my emotional connection to other women was doing to her. Healthy is, IMHO, often a matter of perspective. It wasn't healthy for PLove to be in a situation where she was feeling abandoned and, at the time, I was not skilled enough to make it work. Maybe in the future that will change and maybe not, but I'm solid with things as they are right now.
I don't see any value in this kind of sacrifice. She is getting someone who is half halfheartedly committed to living the lifestyle she is living, you are getting someone who fundamentally differs in how they view love and only accepts you because you pretend to be ok with it. You consider it honorable and that seems to be enough to get you through, but I wouldn't wish that kind of false life on someone I don't like.

Sorry, I'm not trying to be a dick, I'm just baffled.
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