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Old 10-21-2012, 01:30 AM
JaneQSmythe JaneQSmythe is offline
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I wrote extensively about this in a post on my "Notebook" blog here with regard to a misunderstanding we had about boundaries.

The short version of how I view it:

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If either MrS or I (or Dude or I, for that matter) requests a “couple” boundary that we each agree to – once it is agreed upon then each member of the couple has the same stake in the boundary regardless of who suggested it. It was a decision that “we” made – neither member of the couple can agree to its negation without consulting with the other.
If a boundary affects another person I don't think it is unreasonable to discuss it with them - they might have a viable alternative that you have not considered - including the rationale behind the boundary so that people don't run into those "letter of vs. spirit of" situations

JaneQ
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Me: poly bi female, in an "open-but-not-looking" Vee-plus with -
MrS: hetero polyflexible male, live-in husband (23+ yrs)
Dude: hetero poly male, live-in boyfriend (4+ yrs) and MrS's best friend
Lotus: poly bi married female, "it's complicated" relationships with Dude/JaneQ/MrS (1+ years)
+ "others" = FBs, FWBs, lover-friends, platonic G/BFs, boytoys, etc.


My poly blogs here:
The Journey of JaneQSmythe
The Notebook of JaneQSmythe

Last edited by JaneQSmythe; 10-21-2012 at 01:34 AM.
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