Originally Posted by Marcus
I agree, if you love someone you should not want to be party to their living a life they do not want to live. This applies to you as well, why would you want him to live in monogamy if he has made it plain that he has absolutely no interest in living that way.
Point and match. As much as it's wrong for him to force her into a non-monogamous relationship, it's also wrong for her to force him to stay in a monogamous relationship.
I'm sorry begonia, but it really sounds like you and your partner are just not compatible. It super sucks that he waited this long to drop the bomb. If there's a silver lining, it's that next time you'll know to make it clear from the beginning that you're only interested in a monogamous relationship, that that will never change, and that if the other person has any inkling of being other than truly monogamous, then it's not going to work.