If you have always been together on making financial decisions I think you should have been included in her taking out a loan for his truck. I would have felt discounted in this situation as well and I understand how you would. You have a right to your feelings and I think you should take it up with them. Since you have developed a lot of conflict resolution skills in this relationship so I think you can do it and expect a successful outcome. The fact that he's afraid you'll ask for a divorce means to me that he's invested in his relationship with you and doesn't want it to end. Think about what you want out of a talk with them: an apology? An agreement to be included in any such future transaction?
Good luck in this. You're putting a lot of effort in making this work. I think it's reasonable that you expect them to do the same.
Last edited by Stevenjaguar; 10-19-2012 at 04:01 PM.