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Old 10-18-2012, 03:18 PM
GalaGirl GalaGirl is offline
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"In terms of the formation of long-term relationships, it's far better to get false negatives than false positives." - Eric Pepke
To me? I interpret that as... it is better for me to think of a close friend as "oh, not happening there" and have it turn out later that actually it IS a good match and happening! (the false negative) Because you have already had a good rapport built as friends and it deepens into more. Gives you a better shot at a long term thing.

Than for me to go after a random crush person and have it turn out to be nothing past the initial crushy stages. (the false positive) Just not a long term runner because once the initial "pink fluffy lala cloud thing" wears off, there was nothing of substance to hold it together.

It's not that it CANNOT happen with a crush person. Just that the odds for long-term romance are better with someone you ALREADY have some kind of meaningful relationship with like a good friend.


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