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Old 10-17-2012, 08:49 PM
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Sounds like things are improving in the communication areas. Good/plentiful communication is one of the most important ingredients in making polyamory (or any kind of relationship, really) work. So I commend you for working on your communication skills.

Perhaps the best advice here is to not panic, and to not try to solve everything at once, but rather, take it in small chunks. If something makes you feel left out, give him a gentle reminder: "Hey, I am here too." NRE is no excuse for neglecting one's original relationship, but it's a powerful force and people do get forgetful sometimes. Just tell him, "Hey, I need some more attention over here." It's easy to take the original relationship for granted.

It sounds like the girlfriend is very understanding and respectful towards you. That's a big plus; keep developing your friendship with her, even if it's nothing romantic (yet).
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