This looks like it does not work for O and he has tried backing out. He is tempted when it is there but it reads like the words "raw deal" keep coming up. This means it is simply not his ideal situation but is physically attracted.
O might be trying to look at it holistically and seeing that the emotions and logic of the entire relationship with you is out of balance for his needs.
So take it for what it's worth. If your husband is cool with you playing with O in a NSA situation then play with O to the level he puts forth comfort with.
Maybe lay off the Love part. NRE is powerful and can cloud things as GalaGirl stated above. Pace yourself and all parties should keep their emotions in check.
Last edited by OneloveVT; 10-16-2012 at 06:02 PM.