Originally Posted by Confused22
Everyone. Fucking. Knew. And I didn't get so much as an anonymous facebook message or note saying as much.
I had been questioning her about it for a number of months, even offered her "amnesty" to tell me whatever is going on without immediate consequence. She always lied. I knew something was going on, in my gut I knew she was cheating, but I never had solid proof. I never had anything definitive and had even beaten myself up about accusing her for it.
Why the fuck are you still there? Walk on, man, walk on!
Ain't nobody close to her giving you the slightest respect--least of all her. That's not worth saving. Document the cheating and such for the custody hearing and walk on.
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.
While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.