Although it's very belated on my part, I wanted to add my welcome to the forum. It sounds like you guys have quite an exciting situation, with few dull moments. I wouldn't worry too much about balancing things; poly tends to be wabi-sabi, so to speak.
I hope you're enjoying your time on Polyamory.com, there's certainly a lot to discover here.
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