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Old 10-12-2012, 05:22 AM
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Join Date: Oct 2012
Posts: 12
Smile Happy to be here - Hi everyone

Hi all,

Well, I'm new to this whole thing but I'm excited to be here and I have already learned lots browsing through the forums here.

A little about me:

I'm a 32 yr old female. I've been single for a couple of years and have had lots of issues building relationships. Mostly, this is because I'm stubbornly independent, like my own space and have insecurities (like everyone) that have prevented me from wanting to engage in a full-time relationship. In addition, I travel a lot - both for business and personally. So it's been tough to figure out a way to build a relationship that I want and don't want, in equal measures.

I want a relationship for the same reason as anyone else - companionship, loving someone, having someone love me, feeling like I'm not alone in the world. I didn't want a relationship for a long time simply because it felt too pressurized and I would lose out on my independence, my space, my lifestyle, my work, my travel plans etc.

Anyhow, long story short - I met a guy through a mutual hobby/interest, I bravely (for me) added him as a friend on Facebook. We met up. We liked each other a LOT. Before we went on our second "date", he told me he was married and poly. Shock to the system, but somehow I agreed to meet him to discuss more about it. That was all a few months ago, and I'm still seeing him. I've fallen in love with him. He's a great guy and now I feel like I've finally found a world that suits me. It's not been easy, but I'm wading through all the emotions and challenges.

Being a "secondary" is weird, it plays havoc with my confidence issues - but also challenges me in a good way. We're both still trying to figure out how to make it work for both of us (biggest challenge is time commitments), but it's refreshing to be in such an open and honest relationship. And I've started thinking about how this lifestyle is the answer for me.

I would love to start actively contributing to and soliciting opinions in this forum, and I'm excited to be embarking on my poly-journey.
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