You are hurting.
It's generally not a good idea to make major decisions in the midst of a crisis.
So, take a timeout from the topic for a week to calm.
Then, go to lifestyles and blog page, read through some of the blogs.
There are more articles on xeromag worth reading too.
Ultimately, if you absolutely won't accept poly, end it as peaceably as possible.
"Love As Thou Wilt"