My definition of primary...and i have told him this so there is no misunderstandings...is that our relationship and my wants and needs come first. If there is a need for "us" time it will be communicated to all involved and i fully expect and appreciate any changes necessary to make that happen. I dont mean to sound greedy or bitchy...but its what i NEED. Period. As of right now neither one of them are looking for emotions or romance. I guess his relationship with her would be better defined as a tertiary. Thank u for the vocab lesson.