I would spend time scouring dating sites, looking for that person. It never worked out. So I gave up and found other ways to make myself happy. Whaddya know, shortly after I started taking care of my own needs, I started meeting people.
When I was a teenager, I learned that the quickest way to find a boyfriend was to say "I am swearing off boyfriends and I refuse to date anyone right now!" It never failed. One time I tried to outsmart fate by saying "The only reason I am not swearing off boyfriends is because I somehow end up with one every time I say that." And that's when I met my current husband.