Thanks for this comment from the sidelines. Most of your points regarding the gf are exactly what came to (my) mind when reading about LR's situation and problems with her.
What I find most disturbing is the love-hate element I found whenever LR told us about Maca. I discussed this with my partner today and he said what I was thinking: "Did Maca ever overcome any of the negative things that happened in their marriage and with the cheating incident? If they got passed it and decided that this was cleared and over, some of his actions simply don't match that fact/agreement."
I really hope that you will be able to solve this mess LR and that some peace will come out of it finally and back into your homelife. Very sad to read about so many negative developments
Facts: 30, female, bi, v-type relationship with Sward (husband, straight, mono) and Lin (boyfriend, straight, mono), poly-fi and co-primary.