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Old 10-08-2012, 06:44 PM
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Originally Posted by nerdyred View Post
Thank you everyone so much for all your responses. i appreciate every one.

My clarification is that I have had the opportunities to date other BI ppl. And Strait, and gay ect. I want to be in a poly relationship that will work but I am confused as to what the best way to go about it. I am a professional and really don't believe that can get something for nothing in this life. It is work to build and maintain relationships and the people in them. Poly just adds an additional dynamic. I want to think just how to focus my attentions and what are the possibilities. It is OK for you if you just sit back and let it happen, hey that can be really fun. But for me I don't see it working out like that.

This week I will be going out with a bunch of poly's in a form of getting to know you session. It is the social interactions that have me all a-tizzy and I want to know just what type of people that would be a "BAD" idea. I have seen strait men do some pretty amazing things, in a bad way, when their lovers are in poly and bi. Same goes for women. But their has to be some things to look out for that would be practical.
I am sorry to have to tell you that there are no answers to these questions. Aside from the fact that your sentences do make sense because they follow the rules of English grammar (subject, verb, predicate, etc.), the premise(s) of your question(s) do not make sense. You seem to be operating with some sort of axiom that all bisexual people can be expected to handle their relationships based on some common principles derived from being bisexual, and are searching for a cause-and-effect relationship between that and polyamory. This is fundamentally flawed in more ways that i can begin to explain.

You seem to be asking what are some "bad things" to watch out for in people in general, and what, if any, "bad things" are common in bisexual people specifically, and how these "bad things" can find their expression in relationships with a non-monogamous dynamic factored in. I find it perplexing why you would expect a bunch of strangers on the internet to be able to predict "bad" qualities in a group of people you haven't even met yet, based on whether they are bisexual or not. You have to meet people, get to know them, listen to what they say, how their actions align with what they say, and how they treat others during good times and during times of crisis before you can make an assessment about what type of person they are.

To be honest - I'm already starting to suspect that i wouldn't like you if i ever had the chance to get to know you in person. I am also bisexual, but that is not really relevant.

I hope that was useful to you.
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