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Old 10-07-2012, 09:17 PM
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Originally Posted by GalaGirl View Post
ONow I'm looking at the dark horse 4th player -- the other husband.

He's been presented with information and a final limit. Now he has to make a move and choose his next behavior. I do not think he ought to make a rash decision about it. That would be a REACT behavior.
I see what you're getting at now, thank you for the clarification.

Originally Posted by Vixtoria View Post
There is NOW a sense of urgency with her, because there is another relationship involved. A sense of urgency for her, not for him. Sure now he understands that there are issues in their relationship, and maybe they won't work it out. However, it's not as easy as she told him and he ignored her. Communication skills are hard to learn.
Also a very good point. She has every reason to walk away, because she won't be left high and dry. But you're right that she's not giving him a chance to change, now that he knows he needs to if he wants to save the marriage.
As I am sure any cat owner will be able to tell you,
someone else putting you in a box is entirely different
from getting into a box yourself.
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