Originally Posted by BoringGuy
How about writing to her on paper, reassuring her, then leave it up to her whether she wants to believe you or not. She can carry the paper around with her and read it for comfort. That's what people used to do back in the days before cell phones and internet. Aside from that, there's only so much you can do. She ultimately has to be a big girl and confront her own demons. There is no reason why you should be sucked into her vortex of insecurity. No good will come of that.
I like that idea. I think having that tangible thing will at least help her remember that we are there for her and do love her.
I know my own demons and part of them is this desire to be a leaning post for the people I love. Which is why I feel at such a loss for this. But thank you for that suggestion.