Sorry I'm so late in saying welcome ... but, welcome.
It sounds like you have the right idea, that you're taking things slow, and doing a lot of communicating along the way. I hope your military service doesn't keep you apart too much; you guys deserve to be together.
I would just keep the communication going, and read and post as much as you can here on these boards, to learn about poly as much as possible. It's good to be aware of the challenges others have faced, and how they have got past them.
Anyway, I'm glad you joined us, and hope you'll enjoy your stay here.
Love means never having to say, "Put down that meat cleaver!"