monogamishSF, I just have to say I love that you call her 'TP' (I couldn't help but giggle).
And I loved what GalaGirl said. For me, stating what I want has most often proved rewarding.
Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own...
Robert A. Heinlein
Me: female, bi, (formerly hinge of a vee)
with FirstBoyFriend (FBF)(moderately long-distance)
and no longer with CurrentBoyFriend (CBF)(who lives in the apartment building next door)