Dude and I played this game amongst ourselves one night - with the "added bonus" of whether we remember their names or not (...riddle me this, he LIVED WITH a girl for three years and can't, now, remember her last name...although he says he knew it at the time)
Our numbers are roughly equal (approx 2 dozen). Mine are split about equally M/F (we also had to decide what constituted sex...he was pretty much only counting PIV - my definition ended up being "was it an activity, other than kissing, that could have transmitted gonorrhea, had it been unprotected?") I remember more names, he had more long-term/cohabitating relationships.
What does this mean? Er, nothing but some amusement and getting to know each other better. He was surprised that, until him, I hadn't slept with a male, other than my husband, for the last NINETEEN years (was barely tempted, most guys piss me off, what can I say? We had an OPP that was never renegotiated because my focus was on all the cute girls...) I was surprised that he had never heard the term "polyamory" until he met me...
PS. MrS has been much more "conventional"...4-5 partners, most (all?) of which considered themselves his girlfriend...If you don't count the threesomes that he was invited to by me+girl (that didn't involve "penising")...this DOES get complicated, doesn't it?
Me: poly bi female, in an "open-but-not-looking" Vee-plus with -
MrS: hetero polyflexible male, live-in husband (23+ yrs)
Dude: hetero poly male, live-in boyfriend (4+ yrs) and MrS's best friend
Lotus: poly bi married female, "it's complicated" relationships with Dude/JaneQ/MrS (1+ years)
+ "others" = FBs, FWBs, lover-friends, platonic G/BFs, boytoys, etc.
My poly blogs here:
The Journey of JaneQSmythe
The Notebook of JaneQSmythe
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