In my pre-MrS days I was really, really good at non-attachment. (Since I ran from attachment at every opportunity - I even had a "rule" that I wouldn't sleep with someone more than 3 times because I thought they might get attached...more info in my blog). Then MrS happened and I couldn't avoid it - I became "attached" against my will (and better judgement) - in hindsight, 20 years later, this was "a good thing". When Dude showed up, I tried to emulate my older patterns, briefly, and unsuccessfully. I still greatly enjoy my "unattached" relationships with the women in my life - and have no desire to change them.
Relationships, because they involve more than one person, are NOT under any individual's control. (Damn it!) At some point they become their own entity...
Me: poly bi female, in an "open-but-not-looking" Vee-plus with -
MrS: hetero, probably mono male, my live-in husband (together for 21 years, married for 17)
Dude: hetero, probably poly male, my live-in boyfriend (of 2 years; friends for longer) and MrS's best friend (for several years longer than that)
VV and MsJ: bisexual women with male primaries, LDR FWBs (of 19 and 7 years)
My poly blogs on this site:
The Journey of JaneQSmythe
The Notebook of JaneQSmythe
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