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Old 10-03-2012, 02:30 AM
JaneQSmythe JaneQSmythe is offline
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Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Pennsyl-tucky
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In my pre-MrS days I was really, really good at non-attachment. (Since I ran from attachment at every opportunity - I even had a "rule" that I wouldn't sleep with someone more than 3 times because I thought they might get attached...more info in my blog). Then MrS happened and I couldn't avoid it - I became "attached" against my will (and better judgement) - in hindsight, 20 years later, this was "a good thing". When Dude showed up, I tried to emulate my older patterns, briefly, and unsuccessfully. I still greatly enjoy my "unattached" relationships with the women in my life - and have no desire to change them.

Relationships, because they involve more than one person, are NOT under any individual's control. (Damn it!) At some point they become their own entity...

Me: poly bi female, in an "open-but-not-looking" V-plus with -
MrS: hetero polyflexible male, live-in husband (24+ yrs)
Dude: hetero poly male, live-in boyfriend (6+ yrs) and MrS's BFF
SLeW: platonic hetero girlfriend and BFF
MrClean: hetero mono male, almost lover-friend to me, FWBs to SLeW
+ "others" = FBs, FWBs, lover-friends, platonic G/BFs, boytoys, etc.

My poly blogs here:
The Journey of JaneQSmythe
The Notebook of JaneQSmythe

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