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Old 12-14-2009, 09:22 PM
AutumnalTone AutumnalTone is offline
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Originally Posted by PickMoreDaisies View Post
I think that it helps to have the feeling that you have some say so when you are having a hard time dealing with things and so I willingly give up the 'say so' when others are struggling. Does that make sense?
Yes. I can understand that sort of thing when dealing with specific, short-term circumstances. As a permanent dynamic, or even for a lengthy, indefinite term, I don't find it reasonable. I think it's too rife for abuse and essentially unhealthy.

And I'm certain there are folks for whom it works just fine. That whole diversity thing in action. We humans are a varied lot.
When speaking of various forms of ain't poly if you're just fucking around.

While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.
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