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Old 10-02-2012, 09:06 PM
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For me this whole thing comes around the progression from dependance through independence to interdependence. There are people who are quite content in each of these modes of relating to others.

My preferred mode is interdependence, where I can have a select few people on whom I know I can rely - they've "got my back", as it were. I don't care whether they live with me (primaries) or don't (secondaries) - I can still form attachments and I enjoy those attachments - I just don't give them out willy-nilly. It takes time to develop a foundation of trust that allows for a solid interdependent relationship to develop.
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