unfortunately yes the 'number' does seem to still be important in relationships. Mine is significantly lower than all of my partners yet that isn't an issue for me.
What annoys me is the disparity between how high numbers are viewed between men and women. women tend to find my low number admirable, while men seem astounded that despite my open relationship (which i dont hide) it is so low.
To me the number doesnt matter as much as who is in that number. mine includes people i have a rapport with, and only two one-nighters.
Bio in Brief: Me and Mrs open and swinging. Mrs also seeing A. Recent relationship breakdown with J and B.