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Old 09-30-2012, 08:39 PM
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Late to this (and many other) discussions, but I definitely would like to stress that you should not be put in the middle of this. They should not be telling you anything which they wouldn't tell the other. The idea of openness and transparency is that people talk through their stuff openly with all those in the relationship.

Having a group meeting is definitely good, but you also need to make it clear in the first of the meetings that you are not going to play the role of confidante to either of them. Often this is a habit, and it needs to be broken, because otherwise you will end up putting a lot of energy into trying to work out who said what to whom. Hardly a healthy dynamic...

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