Originally Posted by Vicki82
I don't know if I really care that the sub knows about us. Why cause her undue heartache? But I don't like that the lie got a little more overt by him basically professing exclusivity. And it does hurt that I am basically a secret from everyone in his life. I don't know why, but it does.
Hm, a bit of a conflict of perspective here. Which form of "heartache" do you prefer? Being the secret someone is keeping from another, or being the one the secret is being kept from?
Does this boyfriend know how you feel, and does he care? Is he so wonderful that you would put up with this long-term? You haven't been seeing each other for a very long time. It's right around that area where the NRE is starting to wear off and you start to see the other person for who they really are.