Originally Posted by Bowvine
What about if you haven't met your partner's other interest and she is avidly against reaching out to him. Is this a red flag?
I'm not sure what you mean by she isn't wanting to reach out. Do you mean she doesn't want you to?
If that is what you mean I would call that a big red flag. To me that isn't poly, but an open relationship. Which is fine but just a different set of rules than poly.
I would wonder what she is hiding or they are hiding and whether or not I am really loved and cared for as much as she says. I would wonder if she were really just checking out if this person was worth leaving me for.