I don't think I would feel comfortable cuddling with someone I was not sexual with. And there are different levels of cuddling, in my mind anyway, now that I think of it.
I've had a few casual hookups, and we did cuddle for a bit after sex but it wasn't really affectionate if that makes sense. Just the continuation of touch from the sex.
Then there are the cuddles I get from my lovers which make me feel whole. I was also a NICU baby and spent three months in an incubator and perhaps that also created the intense need for touch that I have. Being held by H or L just makes me feel safe and the whole world recedes for me. I feel at peace in their arms.
I love to be touched by men I am close with. I hug my friends hello and goodbye but we don't go any further than that and I don't think it would work for me. But with my lovers, it's just perfect.
: 34 yrs, poly pansexual Dominant female.
Henry, 30yrs, my collared submissive, cohabitating and engaged to be married. Currently no other partners.
Kiddo, my 6 year old son
Mark/StbxH, my exhusband of ten years, finally divorced.