Hi all, my name is jody. I am a 35 year old female very new to the whole poly thing. As a matter of fact I am still married (soon to be divorced) to the same man for 8 years and I want something different. I have so far only made a concious decision to become a poly and have not even mentioned it to him. We are still miserably living together and have not filed for divorce just yet, but we do discuss important things peacefully, like who the children are going to live with, who gets the house, and such. I thought for a long time that my desire to be with another man or men was so wrong. But now to keep such desires locked up is what is really wrong.