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Originally Posted by GalaGirl
No. Why would I direct away from it?
And if you know YOU direct your energies toward your primary -- why all this worry about what other people are doing? What needs validating or affirming for you? What are you afraid you are missing out on?
No, I don't worry about not being a shiny new toy to him any more. I like being OLD shiny toy better.
There isn't as much "weather reporting" because he knows me and all my tells already. It's a smoother ride, it's a more intense ride, it's a longer ride.
You can get some nice chords and phrases sometimes with a new partner. And learning to make beautiful music together is a fun process of discovery.
But oh, with an old lover? That knows you well? You can run through flawless symphonies! It's another kind of rush. 
GG |
What an interesting read this thread is. My husband has recently confided that he's having trouble enjoying sex with me recently (partner of over 10 years). He's placing quite a lot of significance on the lack of enjoyment, at least in part because he's not getting the same issue with his new girlfriend - this is relevant because he's had some health issues in general that have made sex painful for him.
I can't help thinking that this must at least in part be linked to both his NRE with his new girlfriend (of 3 months) *and* the fact he's exploring kink with her in a way I've never really wanted to... and he really likes it. Mostly I'm terrified that we've broken something irretrievably
but I'm also hoping fervently we can fix it.
I love your quote GG, that's rather what I was hoping would be the case for us, but alas at the moment it doesn't seem to be that way.
Fretting ain't gonna help me relax, either. ARGH.
I hope you've managed to find a way through your questions, lolalondon!