It's not easy to be called into account.
Either you calling YOURSELF into account.
You calling your partner and metamour into account.
Or asking help for others to help you to see the forest for the trees and help you to see from another perspective.
Glad to know you talked and they decided what they did. I am sure this helps you build trust with the metamour new person and reaffirm trust in your wife, and you are reassured in your own self too. Cupcakes for all!
So what could have gone real bad from the get go is on better footing. Not out of the woods yet, because the other husband has to be brought into the conversation. But is this a much better place
from which to do that, right?
Shine on. Gotta love hot ethics.