We have herpes too. I wish I'd had correct information on it 25 years ago!
We are very strict about our safe sex practices:
- Fluid Bonding
Fluid bonding is the main safe sex method with R. Hooray for polyfidelity!
I use condoms whenever I am with someone new or someone who doesn't have another method of birth control. I'm just used to using condoms. It's an ingrained habit.
R doesn't like dental dams or condoms, and prefers fluid bonding, but she uses condoms with new people, at least until they can get tested.