Originally Posted by opalescent
Or perhaps the person you see was always there but not obvious until your relationship. You seem to be feeling some sort of guilt over her changes and it may simply be untrue and unnecessary.
yeah i had some sort of guilt over the years over her changes
Originally Posted by BoringGuy
I would like to extend my appreciation for Thinker's sensitivity toward this matter. Recently, there has been a fair number of topics started by people with newborn babies. It's been either the woman whose partner wants to open the relationship and/or pursue other relationships, or the other partner who wants the mother of their child to accept non-monogamy in some way. These cases tend to feature selfish stubbornness in the non-mother partner, and a great deal of distress and anguish in the partner who is the mother.
It is refreshing to see someone who wants to do this for the other person, who is willing to listen to other people's advice without getting defensive, and is willing to let it go if the other person is not into it.
there people in the forum who rush through things? That's disappointing. And yeah since it is a Polyamory forum i really think that people in here are well minded people who had experienced different levels of open marriages. So it is just a compulsory thing to listen to people who are more experience in that field nothing hard really for accepting your flaws and see through your mistakes
(you just simply bash yourself, magnify the problem and pin-point the problem easy!
thats my way of course)