Your wife's new girlfriend has an unstable situation. That instability will come into your marriage if she pursues this relationship now. The other woman needs to clean things up on her end before doing anything with your wife. That means the other woman needs to decide if she is in or out of her marriage. If in, she needs to take whatever time is necessary to see if her husband is willing to open their marriage before she does anything with this woman. Starting a relationship with this other woman the way things are (for the other woman) now is NOT the healthy seeking you spoke of in another thread.
Last edited by snowmelt; 09-27-2012 at 12:13 AM.