Originally Posted by PinkRose
Thanks. That made me laugh. I don't want to hurt my husband. I love him dearly. I want him to be happy and I guess I feel like I'm the one not keeping my wedding vows because I am asking for something not agreed to previously or even now. Regardless, I appreciate your comment!
You do have the choice to not pursue a relationship with this other man if you think it will cause grief and/or turmoil in your marriage relationship. It's up to you to decide if risking what you have is worth pursuing something that you don't have. I'm not sure if advice on "how to do poly" will be useful in that regard.
Do you and your husband realize that if you get to have other relationships, he gets that option, too? Would that make a difference to either of you?