(cont. from above)
MY OWN SUPPORT
I steam valve safely to my own spouse -- all these feelings of ughness from the side. Also sometimes to my best female friend far away and a good female local friend. (Who also knows the situation and is friends with the abused person.) I journal offline.
This time online in case it helps anyone. Horrible situation.
DH gives me that sort of steam valve support when he listens --
- Tells me I'm doing all I can for a person in need in a terrible situation.
- That I am pointing to possible paths out of the mess with resources that can be used or considered.
- That I'm being all I can be in the role of friend in appropriate ways. I'm keeping it real -- both about the situation and my own limits.
- I'm being honest with my friend. I'm being a good friend.
I just need to keep on
doing what I've been doing.
Keep hoping friend can gather herself together to see her way out of this toward a better tomorrow. Safely, sanely, and under her own power. Nobody can do this FOR her.
Sigh. Just wish a better tomorrow would GET here already.