Write write write! I Do that wvery time I am angry or hurt. It helps me vent out the unhealthy and helpful so that when we talk I can stay focused on the healthy, productive and healing topics.
Definitely be VERY cautious about venting the animosity to another person. Maca went that route and it blew up in his face by. Reating more issues when that person decided to mouth off nastily about me.
But, writing is good. Also, in the heat of the moment, sometimes i will go for a walk in the woods and yell all the nasty things i am thinking.
"Love As Thou Wilt"