We had a long conversation when he landed in LA and we talked a lot about this. I said I could not do this anymore for the sake of our marriage we need to grow strong and grow together and when we are stronger, take on our relationships with other people.
He was very caring and observant and very understanding. He understood when I talked with him that I can do no more. He explained that he was appreciative of the massive effort I put in to try and accommodate him and says our relationship means more to him. He agrees that we should work on us and is going to end things appropriately and politely with the girl that he is seeing and not seek out anyone else without clearly discussing it with me and waiting until it is right to bring the topic up again.
Thank you. I appreciate your insight and suggestions. I feel that we have made the best decision for us and your input really helped.