You're reluctant to use to words primary and secondary but what about her ?
Once a week dates how would she describe your relationship prior to you leaving and during your absence? Compound the fact you are planning a family and the time required in that she might see a natural shift in time and attention coming and see you as a secondary. She might be trying to protect her primary relationship. Is that unfair ?
Perhaps look at it as you left for a month ....now she's asking for a month. That's fair.
Last edited by dingedheart; 09-23-2012 at 09:22 AM.