Originally Posted by msadams
Thank you. In my mind I have been thinking the same thing that you mentioned. Either I allow him to do it, or he is going to anyhow. Its difficult.
So you're faced with the prospect of a marriage in which your feelings and needs about being monogamous are set aside? A marriage where your very legitimate concerns are responded to with disappointment rather than consideration? Is that really the kind of marriage you want to have? Achieving happiness for one partner at the expense of the happiness of the other partner is not happiness.