Oh, wow, that takes SO MUCH SCHEDULING! I'm impressed you make it work!
I'm starting to think that I need to work something out with D first, simply because he's the less flexible of the two, and then work in H time around that. And make sure there's the understanding that weeks when D has his kids I can have more H time... **sigh** I don't like things being complicated
(yes, not the lifestyle to avoid complications, I know... lol)
Thanks for all your advice!