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Old 09-20-2012, 03:45 AM
JaneQSmythe JaneQSmythe is offline
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Location: Pennsyl-tucky
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Personally, speaking for myself and no-one else, I think that letting her know from the outset that you are not interested in an exclusive relationship is a kindness, so she doesn't set up any false expectations.

You don't, in my opinion, need to bring up the word/concept of polyamory until the relationship or conversation takes that turn (although you should be prepared to have that conversation from the minute "non-exclusive" is mentioned...some women ARE looking for monogamous-husband material and, I think, have a right to know from the start that that is not what you are offering.)

Me: poly bi female, in an "open-but-not-looking" V-plus with -
MrS: hetero polyflexible male, live-in husband (24+ yrs)
Dude: hetero poly male, live-in boyfriend (6+ yrs) and MrS's BFF
SLeW: platonic hetero girlfriend and BFF
MrClean: hetero mono male, almost lover-friend to me, FWBs to SLeW
+ "others" = FBs, FWBs, lover-friends, platonic G/BFs, boytoys, etc.

My poly blogs here:
The Journey of JaneQSmythe
The Notebook of JaneQSmythe
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