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Old 09-20-2012, 12:01 AM
JaneQSmythe JaneQSmythe is offline
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#7 resonates with me as well - MrS and I never discussed it explicitly but it seemed axiomatic to both of us.

I wrote a long version of my thoughts on "couple boundaries" (as opposed to "personal boundaries") in one of my blogs here:

http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showp...83&postcount=2

Perhaps I hadn't presented the boundary in the correct way to Dude - I had just recounted the conversation that I had with MrS (both of my boys have explicitly agreed to full disclosure of any/all details to be shared that I think are relevant) including the fact that MrS had proposed it and that I agreed. Perhaps he took this to mean that I had agreed reluctantly (which I had NOT...I thought it was good idea.)

All fixed now.

JaneQ
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MrS: hetero polyflexible male, live-in husband (together 21+ yrs)
Dude: hetero poly male, live-in boyfriend (together 3 yrs) and MrS's best friend
Lotus: poly bi female, "it's complicated" relationships with Dude/JaneQ/MrS; married to TT, poly male
VV and MsJ: bi-women with male primaries, LTR LDR FWBs to JaneQ


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