#7 came about PRECISELY because we had issues with
A) "she won't let me" or "I have to ask her"
versus "we have limits against that" or "We've agreed to discuss things like this before making a decision"
B) because during a difficult time, he met someone and started getting to know them-as they got on well, he started venting to her when we were fighting. Which resulted in her talking trash about me.
She's not a cowgirl-but she got a completely skewed view of who I am because he was ONLY talking about us when he was pissed off.
Totally NOT healthy or functional for us or for them. Screwed up all of the polymath configurations.
"Love As Thou Wilt"