I cheated on Maca (my husband) with GreenGecko (my best friend).
After a big dramatic mess mostly created by me (see my early posts by clicking on my name and going to "see all posts" and finding ones from Sept 09) we went "poly" Sept 25th.
We all live together and it's not easy.
BUT-my point in posting here wasn't to share my side.
I wanted to suggest writing a post to Maca and asking him for his perspective, as he's only a few steps ahead of where you are right now-and our relationship is blossoming BEAUTIFULLY because of his patience with himself, me and GreenGecko.