I have some poly things to write but just a little inspiration. So this will be a non-poly post, cause there's inspiration for that.
Some thoughts about this article. I totally agree with the message, and happy to notice that I often trust my intuition even if I get a lot of feedback towards shoulding. Sometimes I do do that; i.e. should over myself (sometimes with encouragement from other people. I pretty much always do what I actually want in the end, but when I'm shoulding, I second-guess myself more, and that is tiring. That's why I want to write them out a bit.
I regularly feel like I should do something else than cleaning to support myself. There's one big, rational reason: why would I do the worst paying job for money when there are other kind of jobs I could get which would pay somewhat more (e.g. customer service)? But also some other reasons, based on some things that I may not consider as valid. The thought/feeling behind the should goes somewhere along the lines of "I am so awesome and have so many talents and could do so much more
and who knows what I could achieve if I didn't choose to do cleaning?". Which is not really untrue, because I do have many talents for things other than cleaning. But some of it is based on this culturally (and monetarily) supported view of cleaning as something not-valuable, and that is not something I actually believe.
The reason I want to, eventually, do something else is not because I think cleaning is beneath me (which I don't) but because I have other interests towards which I wish to put my energy as much as I can. This is perhaps sometimes confused with seeking money/status, which I could probably get better from almost any job, which then leads to people making remarks about my choosing to clean, which then lead me to revisit and should some more. Which I want to let go of. I don't wish to put my energy into learning a new kind of job, or into job-seeking to get one when I can be a cleaner quite easily (with the 5-year experience I have), or really even into thinking about all kinds of alternative things I could be doing. I would welcome a job in my own field, but until that is more realistic, I'm quite happy to continue cleaning.
Another example also comes to mind. I don't really should over it much myself, but I do get comments (+financial consequences) pretty regularly about my past study choices. I.e. having left a non-interesting field after a year, starting over in a more interesting field, and then after two years starting over the more interesting stuff in a country I more want to live in. Adding to that now moving cities in the middle of my studies (without starting over, though). I do follow what I want to do, but not all of it looks that great in a CV, for example.
And I am well aware of the potential of "you should just stick it out" -comments. I don't believe that myself, though, and have happily surrounded myself largely with people who are supportive of my choices and don't should.