Update: So after much discussion, tears, screaming, yelling and loving, we have decided to stay together and try to work this marriage out. Also, after a lot of thought on my part, I realized that people are human. I thought about two of my closest friends that are the other women in this very type of situation. I thought about how I love them and know they are good women, that have found themselves in love with men that are taken. I know many, many people that have made these same mistakes, and yet they are good people in every way. So we decided to put her on friend status. So far it seems to be working ok, healing slowly. There are days I feel awesome, and then there are days I am full of anxiety and fear. Love is not always pretty and easy, sometimes its downright painful and dirty. Thanks for this forum and all your help Poly people..Hugs.