Nerd Love, Wooot!!
Me and my guys are also nerds, to varying degrees on various subjects. Welcome!
If I may ask, what do you picture as your ideal poly relationship? A triad? Quad? V? N? Or something with less structure, where everyone involved has multiple relationships, some shared and some not?
Pan Female, Hinge in a V between my mono (straight) husband, Monochrome and my poly (pan) partner, ThatGuyInBlack