You are right, and I appreciate the advice. One day at a time is definitely the way to go and I appreciate the reminder.
In fact just this morning I was able to pass that along to my boyfriend. He and P are exchanging emails and texts trying to get a feel for each other and develop trust. He was very concerned that, "he didn't know how to do this" and that he "didn't have experience". It was helpful to be able to tell him to breath. That none of us had the answers or had been down this road before.
You're right its all about one day at a time. Maybe when things have settled into their places and relationships have been established along with the corresponding trust we can start thinking about what the future looks like.